Wednesday, 25 August 2010

Male Chauvinism

Well, Not a nice topic for a blog eh!.. But what do I do? Early this morning, I logged in to facebook as usual.. There I saw the post " A Man is so restive to get married, but after marriage he never rests"...

I am really annoyed and awed at the same time.. This is one topic which has been touched upon by every tom dick n Harry on earth, but yet, my blood boils when I see such messages..

I want to throw a challenge to every man in India. Let them leave the cosiness of their homes where they were born, Leave their friends behind, their life behind and start living with their wives..

Anyone upto the challenge? I dont think so. It is we, Women who have to leave our parents, our pets, our friends, our job at times and even our names most of the time to come and live in a house of strangers.

Don't we learn to start loving these strangers? Make an effort to call that home ours and settle in so called marriage? Yet, it is men who compromise their lives in Marriage...Men whose life changes drastically after marriage... What an irony!..

All through my life, I have come across many illustrations on a wife.. Wife is depicted in cartoons as that vindictive woman who is greedy, selfish and dominating, U can always see a woman with a rolling pin in her hand and beating the hell out of her poor frail husband... Have we ever come across a cartoon which shows the other way around? I dont think so!

I know of a woman, who earns at par with her husband, has her own identity, a booming career and an exciting life.. But, yes, there is always a but!.. This woman doesnot have independence!.. Now, I know you must be feeling, I am contradicting myself in the same sentence.. Let me give you a reason, my reader.. This woman is married for an year, she is given "Pocket money" by her husband who keeps her debit card to himself. According to him, she is not capable of managing her finances on her own, Doesnot know how to dress up, Doesnot have the social etiquettes! Now thats some thing, isnt it?

Let me tell all the men in this world, A woman of average intelligence knows how to deal with her life, Thank you very much! We are not weak, We are as educated as you are, have a job like you do.. Then why do you think we are not capable of managing ourselves? I mean, if a company has hired us, they must be knowing we r capable right?

Well, Another thing is about the household chores. I am really awed when my husband tells me it is my duty to give him food when he gets back home everyday!.. I mean, Why is it "my duty"?

In the olden days, it was only the men who were working . They were bringing in the money to manage the house, Hence, it came upto women to do the household chores like laundry, cooking, cleaning etc. It was just a part of the commitment that I will take up half your burden because I am married to you.

Now, Lets take the current scenario, I am working full time, almost at the same level as my husband, earning almost equally, Still why is it expected that even though I am dead tired at the end of the day, I should be serving a sumptous meal, doing the laundry, tidying the house? well, Yes, My husband does help me at times.. but hold on, why is he helping me? Is it not his responsibility too?

I too am tired at the end of the day after a hard days work, why am I not entitled for rest? My husband comes home and takes his position on the couch infront of the television while I, rush to the kitchen to fix some dinner, tidy all the mess he has left behind, do the laundry. And Yet, Most of the time, it is him that is trying to cope up with marriage!...

When my son was born, it was an unsaid rule that It was going to be me who gets up in the middle of the night to change his dirty nappy, me who will take my days off when he is sick, me who will keep up with his immunization schedule, me who will deal with all his tantrums and all his father would do is cuddle him, play with him and the moment he cries or dirties his nappy, he is turned to his mother!

Why all the unsaid rules are for women? Even though we do so much for our families, at the end of the say we cant even expect an appreciation!... Why what we do is so thankless? I have never seen a husband appreciate his wife for what she has done!...

We Women, Love our role as a wife, yet, we are always blamed to be the cause of misery for our husbands!..
Recently, My husband saved my mobile number under the name Wife.. I am still clueless as to why his friend insisted it to be changed to Knife...

I am sure, one day if every one of us Women refuse to do your job for you, dont wash your dirty laundry, Dont cook for you or refuse to take care of your children, May be then you would understand what being a Woman Means!...

I wish, one day.. That day arrives when Man is thankful that he has a WOMAN in his life!..



  1. Really True Nikki.

    -Shwetha Y Kuntavalli

  2. hey superb write up.. every women's cry.. ella "hudugiyara kugu"absolutely true.but cannot help it!